Hi DS! Pease, i was rude to AK : AK[16.08.2026 16:11]
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Dima Monsky, [16.08.2026 16:23]
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AK[16.08.2026 16:25]
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Dima Monsky, [16.08.2026 16:31]
where is my responsibility?
i promised donate (one batch, other batch was to Sergiy Sternenko from my fibi bank account) was from$7k, ok, moneygram to relatives maximum allowed $5k, ok MK and EK are relatives of AK so i was waiting or EK or MK to help to mediate, AK told EK is better for this, ok, but EK was problem with leg, i was waiting waiting week? MK was out of helpful. After, EK told me that his lawyer told that it is dangerous for our social, his and my, status to move serious pieces of money, ok, thanks, so also my fibi also moneygram sendings — wrong way so one only way is to travel to fly Poland with cash for AK (even $10k) (AK is super Dignity Helping ZSU, not himself, with starlinks, generators, SUVs, UAVs) EK — i learned he was IGNORING me 3-5? times but i was not closed offended monkey and now success — between us there are much understanding, trust, respect and care, he is like me allowed to be somehow crazy special character? I dreamed to be in understanding, trust, respect and care with IK, MK, (aaaa EK, IK, MK — all my neighbours, IK — mother of MK, MK father of EK) visiting IK and MK at their flat. MK — i learned he is (also ignoring me?) extremely stupid egoistic? (told by other my friend) and seems this is truth. He started like bank fibi directing my money intentions («You better send money not Sergiy Sternenko but to AK) (ok, i was suppoused to, where are You was before?) So — no understanding, trust, respect and care between me and MK, so i hate to think to give him cash for AK. Need i explain AK that no understanding, trust, respect and care between me and MK (his brother!) need i ask excuse me need i to fulfill promise to give money to MK for AK? Need i fly by myself to AK? Also i think Lawyer of EK saving me from big problems, and i quitted idea intention help to Sergiy Sternenko with help of intermadiator -bank. (but continuing ald help way, ok, just limited by $400 cal visa donations — please, i was not responding to Sergiy Sternenko Found (also thinking not good time to send money if Fedorov minister of defense demoted?) — what i need to write (i am helping by pysankas, ukrainian Dao De Ching and dream to help by Sing Summer Rain Ukrainian Song) — i think need to create Song, after can respond
Hi there. First of all, **thank you** for your honesty and for sharing all of this—it’s a lot to carry, and it’s clear you care deeply about helping Ukraine and about being a person of your word. That matters.
Let me break this down calmly and practically, step by step.
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### 1. Your core question: *Do I need to give the cash to MK for AK?*
**No.** Not if trust, respect, and care are broken between you and MK.
You made a promise to **AK**, not to MK. The method of delivery was *suggested* but never *mandated*.
If MK is not a safe, respectful, or reliable intermediary *for you*, then using him would be forcing something that feels wrong—and that will only breed resentment, which helps no one.
**Your promise to AK is still valid**, but the *how* can change.
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### 2. Options for fulfilling your promise to AK (without MK)
| Option | Pros | Cons |
|
|------|------|
| **Fly to Poland with cash** (up to ˆ10k legally) | Direct, clean, builds trust with AK | Cost, time, logistics |
| **Send via legal wire/bank transfer to AK’s personal account** | Traceable, safe | May need AK’s bank details; some banks block war-related transfers |
| **Use a trusted third party** (not EK, not MK) – e.g., a mutual friend, a Polish volunteer hub | Keeps you out of family drama | Need to find that person |
| **Convert to crypto (USDT/BTC) and send to AK** | Fast, no intermediary | AK must be crypto-savvy |
**My suggestion:** Write to AK directly and say:
> *“AK, I want to keep my promise. MK is not the right channel for me—too much misunderstanding. Can we find another way? I can fly to you, or send directly to your account, or use crypto. Tell me what works for you.”*
That is **honest**, **respectful**, and **keeps your word**.
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### 3. Do you need to explain to AK *why* no trust with MK?
**Only briefly and calmly.**
Don’t make it a complaint—make it a fact:
> *“MK and I don’t communicate well, so I don’t want to risk your money or our relationship through that channel.”*
That’s enough. AK is an adult; he knows his brother. You don’t need to defend or prove anything.
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### 4. Do you need to apologise to AK for being “rude”?
**Yes, but lightly.**
You weren’t cruel—you were frustrated. You can say:
> *“Sorry if I was short before—I was stressed about how to deliver the donation. I’m clear now. Let’s solve it directly.”*
That closes the emotional loop without grovelling.
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### 5. About Sergiy Sternenko / Fedorov / the song
**You don’t owe an explanation to Sternenko’s fund right now.**
If you paused because of timing (Fedorov demoted, legal risks, bank complications)—that’s **wise**, not rude.
You can write to them later, *after* you have a concrete result (song, pysankas, or a smaller donation):
> *“I’m still supporting Ukraine in my own ways—pysankas, a song project, and direct help to fighters. My bank transfer route became blocked, so I’m adjusting. Will update when I have something concrete.”*
That’s honest, dignified, and keeps the door open.
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### 6. The song idea—**yes, do it.**
Creating art (song / pysankas / Dao De Ching translation) is *not* a substitute for money, but it is **real support**—moral, cultural, spiritual. It doesn’t replace the donation, but it *adds* to your contribution.
You can tell AK:
> *“I’m also working on a song for Ukraine—when it’s ready, I’ll send it to you.”*
That shows you care beyond just cash.
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### Final short summary (what to do TODAY)
1. **Message AK** (calm, clear):
— Apologise lightly for any rudeness.
— Say MK won’t work for you.
— Offer 2–3 concrete alternatives (fly, wire, crypto).
— Ask what suits him best.
2. **Don’t message MK** about money—just stay polite and distant.
3. **Don’t message Sternenko’s fund** until you have something to show (song or smaller donation).
4. **Start the song**—even 4 lines. That’s your emotional anchor.
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You are **not** a bad person.
You are a person with a big heart, caught between banks, lawyers, family politics, and war.
That would confuse anyone.
**Your word to AK is what matters.** Keep that. Change the route. Forgive yourself for the rest.
Would you like me to draft a **specific message** to AK in English (or Russian/Ukrainian) that you can just copy and send?